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Alcoholism

Alcoholism is a mental obsession that causes a physical compulsion to drink.  A mental compulsion is a thought processwhich you have no control over.The vast majority of problem drinkers are people with families and jobs.  They may be dependent drinkers, binge drinkers or people who just drink too much on a regular basis.

It is estimated that for every problem drinker there are 3 or 4 other people affected directly and many more indirectly.  Those problems affect the family, relationships, routines and damage the quality of individual life experiences and opportunities.

The cost of alcoholism is outrageous.  A recent study estimates that the annual economic costs of alcohol and other drug abuse in Canada may be as high as $24.6 billion.

Alcoholism is a progressive disease, it starts with the mental compulsion that is stopped by having a drink and soon one is not enough, then maybe four is not enough to stop the compulsion and it continues until the individual can only stop the compulsion by passing out.

The progression of the disease is so subtle and has  usually taken place over an extended period of time that even the alcoholic themselves have failed to notice when alcohol took over their lives.

For those that have realized that alcohol is a problem there is help but for those that haven’t realized sometimes intervention is the only way.

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Learning Disabilities

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DAVID JAMES & ASSOCIATES
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December 6, 2010

 

REMEMBER:  “People with learning disabilities are smart, they just learn differently.”

 

Why is it some students struggle while most have no difficulty?

Some believe the problems with children who do not succeed at school are:

 

Temporary:  The problem will go away with time; they will pull out of it

Home Environment:  The parents must be doing something wrong.

Intellect:  They are simply not smart enough or not fit for school.

Motivational:  They are simply not motivated and do not apply themselves.

School Environment:  The teacher must be doing something wrong.

 

While each of these is a possibility, it is likely that the particular student is suffering from Learning Disabilities.

 

The Facts

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A learning disability is a disorder that interferes with an individual’s ability to interpret what they see and hear or to link information from different parts of the brain.

Left unaddressed, people may suffer unnecessary hardships such as low self-esteem .

Learning disabilities cannot be cured, however they can be lessened through  interventions and helpful learning strategies.

Bright and gifted children who are under-achieving  may have learning disabilities and those who do often fall between the cracks in our educational system.

It is important to identify whether or not a person has a learning disability in order to determine

the strategies to compensate for it.

 

If difficulties in several of the following items pertain to you or your child, learning disabilities may apply.

-Planning or organizing work

-Completing homework

-Basic reading and reading comprehension

Listening comprehension

-Math calculations and reasoning

-Language skills

Spelling

Note taking

-Class participation

-Following verbal direction

-Easily frustrated with school work   

Time management

Remembering facts and school-related content

 

Learning disabilities are assessed in 5 areas:  Visual, Auditory, Motor, Organizational and Conceptual.

Boundaries – “What is All This Talk About?”

 

DAVID JAMES & ASSOCIATES
http://www.davidjamesandassociates.com
Topic Chess Series
November 5, 2010

 The concept of boundaries is one the most important tools in the area of interpersonal relationships.  Most of our significant relationship problems in our lives are a result in having “poor boundaries”.

What are Boundaries?

Boundaries are the imaginary lines that that tell people your limits and how close they can get to you.  Boundaries can be considered the “shield” you create around yourself such as Limits around time, who you allow into your life and limits around what activities you let take up your attention.

Boundaries are for protection.

Boundaries are the fundamental things that keep you safe and support your well-being.
If you were parented well, you learned to say “NO” firmly and resolutely and to resist people that are “boundary invaders”.  By doing this you learned to keep yourself safe and well.
When our interpersonal boundaries are working well they help us to filter out the negative or harmful people and allow the positive or good people in. Firm boundaries allow us yo enter into sexual relationships that are fulfilling, avoiding those that would be disastrous.  Healthy boundaries  give us a firm sense of who we are, which leads us to treat loved ones well, yet resist attempted abuse or exploitation.

Some unhealthy situations:

The first common unhealthy boundary is attempting the rescue the “unrecoverable.”  Rescuing is doing something for someone that they should be doing for themselves.  An example is loaning money to someone that is always in need and never pays back.

Another common example of poor boundaries is saying yes to every request to things that we don’t have time for nor interest in.  Like the parent that agrees to anything that involves their children because they feel too guilty to say no.

A very damaging lack-of-boundaries is to stay involved with anyone that diminishes our self esteem in any way.

Caring for others and showing compassion is important, but constant care and rescuing are not healthy for either party.  Sometimes saying no is the most loving and healthy action to take.

Abuse, the most serious form of boundary-encroaching is a major source of the life difficulties that lead many people to seek assistance in managing stress and poor relationships.

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